I met with my coach last week, Nelson Searcy, and he took us through an exercise called The Responsibility Process. It's very simple, but yet powerful. Here's how it works. Have someone sit down with you and ask you each question. The question-asker is not allowed to ask follow up questions or interject any personal thoughts. Just ask the questions and let the other participant respond. Give it a try.
The Responsibility Process: Just ask the questions and wait…
• First Question: What is a difficult or troubling situation in your life? This is the open door and you have to be honest…
• Second: What payoffs or benefits do you get for keeping it like it is?
• Third: What cost do you pay for keeping it like it is? The pain of facing the situation (ounces) or the pain of regret (weight)
• Fourth: How do you create, promote, or allow it to be the way it is?
• Fifth: What do you pretend not to know?
• Sixth: What do you want?
• Seventh: What actions can you take and what requests can you make to get this done?
• Eighth: When will you do this?
